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I over think everything until I don't know how to feel. Over time I just told myself that I am who I am and that's it. I'm not going to change myself just for fake people to care about me. If I end up alone for the rest of my life then fine. Its the right choice if it means that I'm being myself. Of course that wont happen to you. I'm sure there are lots of people who care about you, you just have to stop worrying about what other people think. I hope this helped x.
Home Get involved and help others Online forum. Cancel The title field is required! Hi all, This is my first attempt at using an online forum. Thank you so very much. Your situation sounds alot like mine used to be. I dont feel beautiful or wanted. I have very bad insecurity and am still getting over my depression.
I had a boyfriend and lost him because of my fear that he would leave. I did because I didn't think it was fair on him. I'm not saying that you have to do this because he should love you for who you are but you must understand that relationships are a give and take. He can only make you feel the way you want if you show him the same affection. I know its hard but you need to stop worrying about what will happen. You don't need anyone to tell you that your beautiful.
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Real people only care about what's on the inside. People who only care about looks are fake. If he doesn't take you for you then he isn't worth it. Everything happens for a reason you know. This struggle is just preparing you for the future. It's making you stronger. If he is meant to be with you he will understand. Just talk to him and make things right. Tell him how you feel.
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You shouldn't have to apologise for your feelings because they are totally natural but just make sure he knows you don't want to hurt him. I hope this helped. If not then then distraction - a book or movie -or if all else fails a smartphone app called Smiling Mind effective but takes practice Also highly important is regular distraction and self-reward. I'm sure you can get to a much better life, would you like to keep talking here? First time on this forum.. Hi Keira, Thank you very much for taking the time to reply to me, I'm sorry that it has taken so long to get back to you.
Thank you so much again for your response.
Dear Croix, Thank you as well for taking the time to read and respond to my post. If you have any other such advice I would greatly appreciate it. Hi Jkay, I'm sorry to hear about the struggles that you have experienced in your relationship. Hi blueberries, I'm glad I made a difference. We are never broken. We are always becoming.
Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. You may unsubscribe at any time. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. Dedicated to your stories and ideas. A website by Thought. Bad experiences serve to further prove the unreliability of this romance myth so our subconscious tries to protect us from it via anxiety warning bells. Much like Santa Claus and god, romantic love isbut a social construct.
I feel the same way too..
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After my divorce, being in a realtionship makes me so anxious… Im in my 2nd relationship and after 2 month with all the expectation from his side.. I became anxious once again… I lost my hobby, my focus etc and I now wonder if any guy is worth losing sleep and enjoyment in life, over.
I was seriously a stronger, confident and happy person being single. All of you make good points. But people keep looking for it anyway. I gave up on it, all it caused was a lot of hurt and disappointment. Do we really need that in our lives? Are you better off being single? Some people do find happiness in relationships, but I think they just got lucky. But, relationships never made me happy. In order to be in a relationship, I have to settle which means no romantic feelings.
Yet people will say that you can grow to love someone. It never worked for me, but I suppose I could try it again. To summarize, I believe that romantic love is only for the lucky ones. The attitude you have regarding feminism is flawed and will lead to your fears and anxiety controlling you. An shes been getting chest pains and she went to the doctor for it and they said it was because of the relationship.
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My anxiety got worse not long after meeting my boyfriend and the doctor said the exact same thing to me, that it was because of my relationship with him. Do you both argue a lot? Or not see each other often? This was what was causing my anxiety and I used to get full blown panic attacks. I kept calling and messaging all the time. Anyway he is now seeing this person and I an devastated. I feel like I pushed him away. There is a book called thrive.
It will explain how your cognition works and has exercises to show you your thought patterns which lead to this sort of behaviours.